Monday, April 14, 2008

Shout It from the Rooftops

I just wanted to send a shout out to all the commenters on Samantha's guest post on Friday, "Feminist Awakening at 14, and to those who cross-posted! I'm hoping to coax a few more posts from Sam, because, as I think ya'll agree, she's dynamite (as are the other writers of Writopia Lab). Sam's post was picked up around the blogosphere, and I wanted to share tidbits from the commentary:

Nancy Gruver, at orb28 blog: "Samantha's post reminded me that, even if teenagers can't vote yet, they can still have a big impact on politics by speaking up."

Gloria Feldt, at HeartFeldt Politics Blog: "It's always intriguing to learn how political opinions are formed, and this young women clearly has a mind of her own--and better yet, she talks publicly about what she believes."

Patti Binder, of What's Good for Girls blog: "Stand up and shout it from the roof tops-- your message, your voice needs to be out there!"

El Profe of Political Observations: "An extraordinarily well thought-out piece filled with sensitivity, nuance, intelligence and hopefulness for the recovery of our browbeaten nation. Samantha is a person of insight. New voices such as hers are what will be needed in the world that she is inheriting. Bravo Samantha."

So Sam...when can we at GWP expect your next piece?! Your readership awaits :)

Friday, April 11, 2008

GUEST POST: Feminist Awakening at 14

Samantha French, age 14, is a student at Writopia Lab,, a writing enrichment program located on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. She's written an incredible piece for Girl with Pen and though it's longer than the usual fare and I still haven't figured out how to do jumps (help, anyone?!), I'm publishing it in full because it's just so well written. Go Sam. Did I mention Sam's 14?! Here she is. -GWP

As we all know, the buzz around America’s college campuses is Barack Obama and how he represents change for America. According to the media, he has overwhelming appeal to the country’s so-called “youth.” And it’s true. The phrase “yes we can” is being inhaled faster than pot brownies and Jell-O shots at a frat party. However, what the media seems to be consistently ignoring is the opinions of the country’s real, good old-fashioned, disenfranchised youth: high school students. Who are almost unanimously pro-Hilary.

OK, so I’m dreaming.

As a female freshman in Bard High School Early College, one of New York’s more liberal high schools where nearly two-thirds of the student body are females, there is not huge support for Hillary, which makes me sad. Many people at Bard, both male and female, support Obama because they are “tired of the Clintons” (a notion which they have obviously been fed by their parents. Think about it: the last time a Clinton was in office they were eight at the very most).

At first, I agreed with them. My dad’s a die-hard Obama supporter and so are a lot of my friends. But the turning point came for me when I saw how upset and truly devoted Hillary was to the race after her defeat at the Iowa caucus. The moment that the cameras revealed her sad eyes, I realized that I was seeing in her something rarely seen in any presidential candidate: a human being. While my father continued to be very pro-Obama (re-recording Twisted Sister’s “I Wanna Rock,” titled, I Want Barak,)—and put pressure on me to agree with him—I felt a connection with Hillary after that night.

A “conversation” with a boy in my English class the next day clinched it for me. At 9:00AM, the morning after Hillary’s Iowa defeat, I came into my English classroom and sat at the table, looking around at my fellow students, their tired eyes skimming the pages of the New York Times or finishing up homework at the last minute, some finishing their Dunkin Donuts coffee.

Suddenly, I found myself in a debate with other kids about the caucus the previous night and who was for whom. Our teacher was quick to join in, turning it into a discussion which lasted for a good part of the class. The conversation turned to the obvious gender/race issue and one boy was quick to raise his hand when the question of what we thought about a female president came up.

“Well,” he said. “Because she’s a woman, it’s likely that she won’t really be able to perform her duties at ‘that time of the month.’”

Hold on. Rewind… OK, what did he just say?

The girls in my class instantly reacted with high-pitched comebacks and shouting. My friend stood on her chair and said rather loudly, “OH MY GOD COULD YOU GET MORE UN-P.C. PLEASE?” Another girl shouted: “I get my period too, but I come to school every day! I walk up and down stairs!” There was so much noise that I could barely get what I was saying out, so I stood up on my chair and screamed: “SERIOUSLY JUST SHUT UP. I HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY AND IT’D BE NICE IF YOU ALL COULD HEAR ME!” The class instantly became silent.

“OK, so,” I took a deep breath and sat back down. “Hillary is probably post-menopausal so that is a completely invalid argument.” A chorus of agreement sounded from the girls.

The boy, who was recovering from all the screaming, replied defensively. “Well, it was my grandma who said that about Hillary.”

“And your grandmother’s how old?”

“80-something.”

“Your grandmother grew up in a society where women were seen as housewives and probably the last time she went through a menstrual cycle was in the 1970’s when women were still fighting for their rights!”

It was the moment that those words came out of my mouth that I realized I was totally pro-Hillary. Everything my father had instilled in me about Barack Obama melted away. Though I still care about the policies presented by each candidate, it ended up coming down to something bigger. It became about realizing the importance of taking a feminist stance in modern America and how important Hillary’s campaign is to feminist history. Not only do I agree with her healthcare policy and her method to get out of Iraq, but I also feel that she is hugely inspiring.

Since my “feminist awakening” as I guess you could call it, I have signed up for Hillary’s website and watch coverage of her rallies. Just today, I watched a video of a rally of hers in North Carolina where Hillary spoke to a huge audience of predominantly women. When she was taking questions, a young boy told her that both of his grandparents had died of heart disease. He asked her what she planned to do to prevent that from happening. She smiled warmly and promised the boy and the rest of the audience that if she were to be elected she would fight for equal health coverage and protection from such diseases. It is moments like that that make me feel that Hillary would be an amazing president; I believe her historical commitment to health care together with her maternal, relatable qualities would benefit America greatly.

My friends try to convince me to switch to being pro-Obama, and though I may sway a little at times, I’ll get an e-mail from the Hillary campaign or read an article about her and it reminds me of why I love Hillary so much: she has a genuine connection with the people. She is kind of like a mother-figure in that she is very compassionate and approachable, but also very powerful

My generation has witnessed turmoil and corruption during Bush’s terms as president. What we need now is a bad ass mom (with a bad ass track record) to whip this country back into shape.

HAPPY SPRING!

I couldn't resist. This fairy's socks just rock.











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EVENT: Power to Poetic People!

On April 25, 2008, Poetic People Power presents Activism: The American Way. This evening will premiere poems about democracy, the need for ongoing citizen engagement, and advocating for social change. Join in as eight political artists bring their new works to the stage in celebration of National Poetry Month. The show will take place in NYC at the Bowery Poetry Club (located at 308 Bowery) at 7 PM.

Poets include Tara Bracco, Erica R. DeLaRosa, Frantz Jerome, Sugar Johnson, Angela Kariotis, Chris Martin, Shetal Shah, and Jonathan Walton.

Tickets are $10 at the door. One night only: Friday, April 25, 2008, at 7 PM. Don't miss it!

Thursday, April 10, 2008

I Heart Jane

I'm still pinching myself. That's JANE FONDA to the far right, Pat Mitchell to my left, and Avis Jones-Deweever next to Jane. Fonda. (Courtesy of the WMC - photo cred goes to the fabulous and talented Rebekah Spicuglia.)

Seriously?

If you haven't seen it yet, do check out this piece in today's NYTimes Style section, called "When Is a Fashion Ad Not a Fashion Ad?" And then, for a moment of quick relief, check out the WMC's Kathy Vermazen's savvy reaction over on Majority Post.

Is this more dead woman chic? Cause when I go shopping at Marc Jacobs (which--oh, that's right--I don't), I always like to bring a dead body in a bag home with me for kicks.

Here a Guest Blogger, There a Guest Blogger!

Mediabistro's Laura Palotie interviewed me recently for an article on guest blogging--the how, what, and where of it all. The story's now live. Here's an excerpt:
Talk to most professional journalists, and they are quick to say that the age of "making it" exclusively through traditional media outlets has passed. Wait for the green light from The New York Times, and you're quickly missing your opportunity; download the fruits of your reporting online and comment on the message boards of other writers, and you're on your way to creating a footprint that becomes more pronounced with each post. Blogs, too, have quickly transitioned from vanity projects to the building blocks of large communities.

Opening up one's site to the work of another writer or expert can build traffic and help form a more multidimensional platform. These "guest blogging" gigs rarely provide a financial solution for journalists -- in fact, many are unpaid -- but can help establish credibility, build up expertise, and increase the public's interest in a writer's work.


Deborah Siegel, author and lecturer, initially began blogging in January of 2007, when she started touring with her first book, Only Child: Writers on the Singular Joys and Solitary Sorrows of Growing Up Solo. More than a way to seek publicity, she intended her blog to be a way for her family and friends to keep track of her whereabouts during the tour. Soon, however, she began including broader feminist commentary, from mothering to popular culture, and saw her page views increase. "I'd get comments from people I didn't recognize, and I knew it couldn't all be my mom," she says.


Besides keeping up her own site, Girl With Pen, that currently gets between 1,000-2,000 hits a week, Siegel guest blogs for The Huffington Post and Majority Post. She doesn't make money from these gigs, but extending her public scope consistently spikes traffic on her own site and helps her draw attention to her other work, including her newest book, Sisterhood: Interrupted. Siegel has also been asked to give a talk on blogging at this spring's
Council on Contemporary Families Conference in Chicago.

"I don't think of blogging as separate from my work," Siegel says. "It helps me stay accountable at keeping up with the areas I write about. It also has a real sense of immediacy with an audience, those comments that people post that really make me think."
Full article posted here.

And here at GWP, Guest Blogger Laura Mazer is up next!
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Wednesday, April 9, 2008

Lusty Lady Does It Again...

Well, Rachel Kramer Bussel has done it again. A prolific erotica writer herself, Rachel gathers 26 other uninhibited women in her new collection from Seal titled Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women. Love that the book flap answers Freud's infamously infuriating question, "What do women really want?" with the following: "They want it all." Because "it all" is pretty much what you'll find between these covers. And believe me, if you read it, you will only be left wanting one thing: More.

The collection is, as Rachel notes in her intro, "dirty and sweet, wrapped up in one." Like Rachel herself--who also runs a cupcake blog (anyone catch her recent appearance on Martha Stewart? for reals). This recipe for good erotica starts, of course, by dutifully deconstructing "dirty." Writes Rachel:
"All too often we denigrate the dirty girls--the ones who dare to publicly show their naughty sides--as incorrigible sluts rather than realizing just how exciting it is to tap into our lustiest selves. Once you crack the surface of those who are seeingly prim and proper--the demure suburban housewife, the suited up banker, the quet secretary, the curious bookworm, the shy computer nerd--you'll very likely find that the simplicity of the word 'dirty' doesn't go anywhere near far enough to describe the kinds that lurk within them."
Ultimately, Dirty Girls is playful, yet hot. As couples therapist Esther Perel has noted elsewhere, democracy isn't always the hottest thing when it comes to the bedroom, and the stories here are loath to follow any PC guidelines. Thank goodness. The result? A book filled with "erotic adrenaline." Full of fantasy, yet real. Which, btw, reminds me of another recent nonfiction title, which I hear reads like a modern-day McKinnsey study, full of to-the-minute kinks. It's called America Unzipped. I'd be eager to hear what Rachel has to say about it--in fact, I bet she's blogged about it over at Lusty Lady. I'm off to check out the latest on her awesome (and inspiring!) blog.

For those who are local, Rachel is throwing a book party here in NYC on Thursday, where there will be BOOB cake from Moist and Tasty. At Sutra Lounge, 16 First Avenue off First Street, Thursday, April 10, 7-9, FREE, 21+. She'll also be hitting Atlanta, where she'll be talking, with others, at Sex 2.0. CONGRATS, Rachel, and thanks for giving us this book!

Male Pundifery Gone Wild



Check out this YouTube video by Shut the Freud Up Productions. Warning: It's long (9 minutes). The bulk of it is male pundits spewing chunks, with meta commentary from Edward R. Murrow superimposed, and scary Carl Orff's Carmina Burana music creshendoing in the background. Keith Oberman gets lumped in with the other nuts, which I think is slightly unfair, but hey. My favorite part is around minute 6, when it turns into an montage to the beat of Alanis Morrisette [correction: Meredith Brooks!] belting "I'm a bitch, I'm a lover, I'm a sinner, I'm a mother." Check out these lyrics--pretty a propos:

Yesterday I cried
Must have been to see the softer side
I can understand how you’d be so confused
I don’t envy you
I’m a little bit of everything
All rolled into one

I’m a bitch I’m a lover
I’m a child I’m a mother
I’m a sinner I’m a saint
I do not feel ashamed
I’m your hell I’m your dream
I’m nothin’ in between
You know, you wouldn’t want it any other way

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Dirty Girls Reading Dirty Girls

Today is my day to review Rachel Kramer Bussel's new book, as part of a blog tour. And I promise my post is coming soon--just want to run out and catch some exercise before the day begins. I'm psyched to be in such good company on this one--check out who's also reviewing as part of the tour, and do visit them too if interested:

April 9 Deborah Siegel
April 10 Babeland
April 11 NYC Urban Gypsy
April 12 FunkyBrown Chick
April 13 Boinkology
April 14 Audacia Ray
April 15 Pretty Dumb Things

For all you writers wondering how a blog tour actually works--and how to set one up for yourself--I'm teaching blogging seminars at upcoming conferences and will def cover the topic. For starters:

Council on Contemporary Families - April 26, U of Illinois, Chicago
National Council for Research on Women - June 7, New York University

EVENT: Kids Read in Bryant Park May 18

I've posted here before about my friend Rebecca Segall's amazing venture Writopia Lab and just wanted to share a quick update for those of you in NYC. Her young (middle and high schooler) writers have been arduously developing short stories, memoirs, op-eds, scripts, and poetry over the past six months and will be sharing them in Bryant Park on Sunday, May 18th, from noon to 3:00pm! One of her writers will be guest posting here on GWP soon, and I can't wait to share her voice with you all. And mongo congrats to Rebecca, who was just awarded Scholastic's Golden Apple Teacher Award for "submitting the most outstanding group of submissions on the national level" in the Scholastic Art & Writing event. I just learned she was also nominated by students and selected to be entered into the 11th Edition of Who's Who Among American Teachers. I'm so proud of my friend, I could just burst.

I'm in Book Heaven

After a month of being on the road, I'm finally able to get back to doing some book review posts. Here's a preview of the pile that came in while I was gone--books I hope to be writing about here and there over the next few weeks. Judging just from their covers, I can't wait to read them:

Dirty Girls: Erotica for Women, edited by Lusty Lady Rachel Kramer Bussel (hint: VERY hot cover)

It's a Jungle Out There: The Feminist Survival Guide to Politically Inhospitable Environments, by Amanda Marcotte (love the superhero cover on this one!)

Maiden USA: Girl Icons Come of Age
, by Kathleen Sweeney (haunting cover image of girl staring back)

Parenting, Inc.: How We Are Sold on $800 Strollers, Fetal Education, Baby Sign Language, Sleeping Coaches, Toddler Couture, and Diaper Wipe Warmers--and What It Means for Our Children
, by Pamela Paul (awesome subtitle is so long not much room for image, but image is of baby in a dollar-patterned diaper and very a propros)

Stay tuned...!

Monday, April 7, 2008

I Do I Don't I Do

My Progressive Women's Voices colleague Sonia Osario is up to some amazing stuff as the head of NOW-NYC. Like this event, for instance:

The Girlfriend's Guide To Marriage
April 17th, 2008, 6:30 pm


Don't just plan your wedding, plan your marriage. Join NOW-NYC for The Girlfriend's Guide to Marriage, and learn the top 10 things you should know before getting married. Speak with our relationship and legal experts, and tackle questions on every bride's mind. His name or yours? Is it better to combine banking accounts or keep them separate? The first year of marriage can be the most difficult, but we can help you make a smooth transition. Featuring attorney, Sherri Donovan, matrimonial and family law expert.

Event will be held at NOW-NYC office | 150 West 28th Street (btw. 6th & 7th) | RSVP (212) 627-9895 | $7 donation for non-members.

All so very topical, of course, for this girl with a pen who is getting married this summer. And keeping her name. Or maybe hyphenating. But definitely not giving it up. My name, that is.

Comments on an Intergenerational Convo at NYTimes

Oh my gosh--my mother has learned how to post comments at the New York Times! Mom, you make me proud! Renee (aka Mom, pictured left) posted in response to my online convo with Courtney over at Marci's blog last week, Shifting Careers. Since I'm bursting with pride at Renee's willingness to learn, and since I also loved what she wrote, I'm reposting her comment here:
"I really enjoyed this discussion between Deborah and Courtney– it touches on so many of the issues that I faced when I entered the work force. It is interesting to me, although a bit disappointing that younger feminists are still trying to achieve things like good child care, flexible hours, and that they 'appear' to be asking too much. Sense of entitlement? To me, if it is for valid reasons and causes, it’s fine. Entitlement only for oneself, without working for authentic and reasonable goals to be shared with other women, is not acceptable. Keep up the dialogue!" -Renee
And while I'm at it, I can't resist posting this comment from some dude who thinks I'm a liar:
"Uh, I’m sorry but Ms. Siegal should not lie about here age. Clearly, she is no older than 29. If you wanna add some legitimacy to this debate a 'boomer' would have really been interesting."
— Posted by Steven Cayce
Well, I AM 39 (as I'm IDed in the post) and for a wider range of generational perspective Steven, I invite you to come hear the panel Courtney and I doing at Harvard with Gloria Feldt and Kristal Brent Zook on April 18. For more on "WomenGirlsLadies: A FRESH Conversation Across Generations," I invite folks to check out our group blog!

See you at Mediabistro Tonight!

Tonight I'll be teaming up with my lovely (and very pregnant!) coeditor from Only Child, Daphne Uviller, for a workshop at Mediaistro on "Breaking into Anthology Writing." There are still a few slots left, so if interested, please join us!

WHEN Monday, April 7, 6:30-9:30 pm
WHERE mediabistro.com, 494 Broadway (Spring & Broome), New York, NY 10012
DIRECTIONS subway directions, map
PRICE
$65 ($50 for )

Here's the description:

Anthologies are among the most powerful and poignant records of the times in which we live. As a writer, anthologies are also a superb way to break into the business, learn the ropes , and get your name on the book. Publishers are more likely to take a chance on your proposal because you've got the weight of other established writers behind you. But with so many currently on the shelves, the market for selling anthologies has become highly competitive. You may have a great, funny, important, and original idea for a collection of essays that has an obvious audience, but what do you need to do to make your anthology stand out?

In this seminar, you will learn how to:

  • Write a proposal
  • Find contributors
  • Manage and edit submissions
  • Work with purchasing editors
  • Make the best use of your in-house publicist
  • Self-publicize

Participants will leave with a timeline in hand detailing the process by which they could reasonably expect to complete a salable anthology.

Last Night I Had the Strangest Dream...Part 2

Speaking of war, do check out Courtney's post on a recent New Yorker article titled "Exposure: The Woman Behind the Camera at Abu Ghraib," by Phillip Gourevitch and Errol Morris. Writes Courtney:
In it, they look closely at the life of Sabrina Harman, the young soldier who took the photos of prisoner abuse at Abu Ghraib that have come to haunt us. The piece is so powerful, in part because the authors rely heavily on quotations from those involved, particularly Harman. Unlike most New Yorker pieces, which I find sometimes err on missing the voices of those at the center of the issue, this one is full of organic wanderings by the soldiers who got caught up in that horrendous place and time...What becomes clear very quickly is that Harman used her camera as a way to process the dissonance between what she felt was right--a small but nagging sentiment--and what she was watching happen all around her to the point of normalization. The lens becomes her way of organizing the world, of making sense of the nonsensical. Interestingly, she is known as the one who won't even let people kill a bug, but she never speaks out directly about the abuse being heaped on detainees. Clearly this contrast tells us something even more frightening about the power of conditioning. She wasn't seeing bugs tortured day in and day out. She was seeing people endure that to the point that it no longer seemed like something to endure or end.
Also, I just caught up on the news that the last bastion of male dominance in the US Navy has been cracked.Women will now be allowed to serve on submarines. It's absolutely a step in the right direction, but damn if I don't wish we could just put an end to all this war. (Via feministing).

I Heart Jodie Evans

This weekend completed my 3-month training as part of the first class of Progressive Women's Voices at the Women's Media Center. I can't say enough good things about this program, but suffice it to say that I've LOVED being a part of its charter class. A highlight this weekend was hearing Code Pink's Jodie Evans, who is also a WMC Board Member, reflect on her own experience with the media as a grassroots activist. Jodie seeks always to be "provocative and distinctive" in her voice. She blogs to get noticed by radio, and actually does radio--different programs--one hour each day, which makes for excellent practice. She makes a point of always telling a story, and gets very personal and very real, as that, in the end, is what moves people.

I was personally so moved by Jodie that I went up and hugged her at the end (and I have no idea whether she's a hugger, whoops). Her authenticity was so apparent, it was hard not to be moved. I asked her how she maintains that kind of genuine performance in front of a camera, as I have a FAR easier time connecting with audiences in person, and even with a radio host, but shine that camera on me and I generally go rigid inside. Her response: "Practice getting naked on camera. Practice practice practice. And get out of your own way. Remember, you're not speaking for yourself, you're speaking for others who can't be there." Wise words, truly.

Jodie also spoke of her personal goals, and the importance of waking up other women to use their own voices, and of moving the person closest to her, so she can then move the person closest to her. She reminded us all not to get stuck in the "I'm right, you're wrong" space, and to carry emotion (ie anger) in your body but not in your voice when on the air.

I'm excited for those taking part in the second class of Progressive Women's Voices and look forward to joining them. And keep an eye out for Code Pink after April 15 (Tax Day), as they've got a very hot message brewing. That's all I'll say...for now!

Friday, April 4, 2008

MLK Remembered

I'm so struck with the footage that keeps looping over and over today, from the Lorraine Motel. And with the remembrances coming through the cables, bloglines, and wires. So many, but I wanted to share these three rather poignant ones:

Addie Stan
Reuben Jackson
Kai Wright

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Girl Icons at Bluestockings Tonight!

Tonight at 7PM, Kathleen Sweeney--who I enjoyed meeting at WAM! last weekend--will be reading from her new book, Maiden USA: Girl Icons Come of Age here in NYC at Bluestockings. Sweeney, a girls studies scholar, charts the pantheon of new girl icons that have surfaced in the past 15 years. From the book's description:

"Maiden USA explores images of powerful, contradictory pop culture icons of the past decade, which run the gamut from Mean Girls and their Endangered Victims to Superheroines and Ingenue Goddesses. Are girls of the Title IX generation in need of Internet protection, or are they Supergirls evolving beyond gender stereotypes to rescue us all?"

The book provides an overview of girl trends since the ’90s including the emergence of girls’ digital media-making and self-representation venues on MySpace, Facebook and YouTube as the newest wave of Girl Power. With brainiacs and athletic champions offered as antidotes to mean girls and lolitas, and with the emergence of self-representation venues on the internet, what is the significance of such contradictory imagery for the culture at large? Sweeney will address this question and also show animations created by teenage girls from across the country. FUN!!

GWP Seeks Spring & Summer 2008 Intern!

Yep, I'm looking for an intern to begin work 5-10 hours/week starting between now and May and ending in August. Primary responsibilities will entail:
• pitching talks and workshops to campuses and organizations for Fall 2008
• organizing content for a new website (comfort with WordPress, or willingness to learn, a plus!)

For the first month, compensation will be hourly. Changing to a commission-based payment arrangement will be considered during month two (in other words, the intern could receive a percentage of the fee received for any talk or workshop that she books for me for the Fall).

Qualifications:
• strong writing skills a must
• aggressive outreach skills (email, phone)
• meticulous follow-up ability
• familiarity with Excel spreadsheet
• availability to meet by phone once/week and in person in NYC once/month

Perks:
• networking networking networking!
• opportunity to guest post regularly on Girl w/ Pen
• all work will be done off-site/remotely
• great for someone interested in PR, marketing, book promotion, feminist organizations, women’s studies, the writing/speaking circuit

If interested, please send cover note and resume to me directly at girlwpen@yahoo.com. (To learn more about the kinds of talks and workshops, you can read more about my work over at www.deborahsiegel.net.)